When I was young, I always wanted to be a mother. An author, too, but a mother first. Through blogging, I’ve had my chances to be an author. When Raisin was born, I was blessed to become a mother.
Seven years ago today, I was living in the suburbs of Melbourne, Australia when my son made his entrance into the world. We were half a world away from family and friends, and we had only been in our new community for a few months. Much has changed in my life and heart since then.
In honor of my son’s seventh birthday, here are 7 things motherhood teaches me. As I think of what I’m learning, I cannot help but recall scriptures that seem to echo the feelings I have about motherhood.
- Love is unconditional. “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man layeth down his life for a friend,” says John 15:13 of the Savior. As a mother, love and charity abound in my heart more than I believed possible before.
- God will never forget me. “Can a woman forget her sucking child . . . ? yea, they may forget, yet will I not forget thee” (Isaiah 49:15). I always doubted that a mother could forget, because I knew of the abundance of love. And yet, once when I was traveling with my newborn son, we stopped for food, then started again. When my son began wailing I realized: I actually had done it. I’d forgotten my dear child’s need. With sorrow, I realized how truly God will not ever forget. How much we need Him!
- Children trust their mothers. “We had no doubt our mother’s knew,” say the 2000 Ammonite children (Alma 56). “I know because you taught me,” my son tells me. My daughter parrots the things I say. More than I can express, this terrifies me and delights me. I am the one these children trust more than anything. What is my example showing?
- Life is so hard. “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he shall not depart from it.” (Proverbs 22:6). There is no how-to manual for the day-to-day needs of my child. The pressure on a mother is great. It is so hard to watch children make wrong choices. Being a parent is no easy task, and while my teenage self could not wait to hold precious, soft and innocent babies, motherhood is about so much more, and it is hard work!
- Watching my children choose the right is the best feeling ever. “I have no greater joy than to hear that my children walk in truth” (3 John 1:4). To know that my children will find joy themselves is my greatest hope.
- Motherhood changes a marriage for the better. “Neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord” (1 Corinthians 13:11). It is beautiful how love can bring life into the world.
- I cannot do this alone, but I can do it. “With God, all things are possible.” (Mark 10:27) Childbirth alone gave me my doubts. But when I held my son that first night, I knew I could never say “can’t” any more. I had made it through childbirth. Surely I could make it through the sleepless nights. Somehow, I can make it through two decades of teaching and nurturing.
What lesson will I learn in the next seven years?
Happy birthday, Raisin!